RicelandMeadows

Just horsing around

August 8, 2011

 

     There are times when you visit with a friend and there are times when you talk to a friend. I think visiting is when both people share in the conversation. Talking to a friend is a wonderful thing too. You can talk about yourself as long as it’s not a bunch of bragging gibberish, but rather sharing things, so your friend knows you even better.

 

     You can also be talking to your friend, because nobody else can get through to him. Perhaps he has a mental block about something and just needs a rational guy to help snap him out of it. Middle aged men get these a lot. They get stuck on fast cars, women or tattoos and need a poke now and then to help clear their minds … no you are not a young man anymore .. get over it 😮

 

     You can talk to your friend and share a business plan or some other life long dream and he won’t pass judgement, just listen and offer suggestion based upon his experience. The best thing is that no matter what you talk about, a true friend, keeps it to himself and tells no other.

 

     My friend made it through his surgery and is recovering in the hospital. Soon he will be able to go home. I will need to talk to him and encourage him. It will make us both feel better. I want to be sure he knows that his current situation is an inconvenience and not a set back. He is only bent and not broken.

 

     I talk to my horses all the time. I think they humor me and listen even though they don’t speak English. They understand, but do not speak. Like a true friend, they don’t have to. I can see the genuine caring in their eyes and body language.

 

     One time Lucy( my old Border Collie) and I were horsing around. She let out a kind of low growl that sounded like “I love you.” I was amazed . The cat walking nearby stopped, shook its head and said, “Holy crap a talking dog!.” …. and Then I woke up 😮

 

     Friendship is like that. You can horse around, be yourself and your friend will forgive you anyway. Heck, they might even act goofy now and then too! Well, at least let their guard down a little and relax, letting the wonderful waves of life,wash over them.

 

     I guess my point is, be a friend who will talk when the silence is deafening. Start conversation and help a friend over a rough spot. Encourage them, motivate them or just share with them. Give yourself permission, to be a friend to someone dear. Take time out of your busy day and the hustle and bustle that is life, to spend a few minutes being a friend to someone. It is not just what you can get from them, but rather … what you can give.

 

     You might ask me how I know this stuff … That’s easy .. My horse told me.